'Bachelorette' recap: season 3, episode 4: Real or Memorex?

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There is a trailer teaser about Andi getting all upset on the outset. And unfortunately, it's all about the late Eric the Traveler.

We are now out of the mansion and in travel mode. First stop outside California: Mohegan Sun Casino in Connecticut. Presumably, ABC will go a bit more exotic later.

Train in pain? Dylan, who has gotten almost no screen time to date, gets a one-on-one with Andi and he's itching to tell her his tragic back story on a locomotive train ride. He is a bit melancholy, unable to reveal said story, and she looks kind of bored. But during dinner, he tells her about his sister ODing and his brother having drug issues and ultimately falling into a coma. No wonder he is so dark. "I don't want you to feel bad for me," Dylan says. "I am who I am because of what I've had that happened in my life." He admits having a guard up to this point. She gives him a rose. Is this a pity rose? She says it's not. "Never in my life I've been so moved. Not because it's sad and I feel bad for you." It's because he was being vulnerable to her. This date is about as fun as eating raw kale in a grain silo.

Welcome to the Washington Generals: Andi carts out some WNBA All Stars to smoke the 12 of her dudes on the basketball court. The guys are split into two teams and play each other for a group date. Brian, a basketball coach, beats Josh's crew.

Why Josh is the one: Aaron Murray's bro seems especially upset that he couldn't go on a group date - much less a solo date - with Andi. "I'm pissed. I'm fired up. I hate losing," says Josh. "It sucks."

Why he may not be: Hard to say this episode. He did nothing on camera that appeared to hurt or help his case this round.

Losing my religion: Andi sets aside time with Eric the Traveler. He complains he's not spending enough time with her: "I don't feel like we're moving forward." He talks about leaving his family and Mormonism at age 23. She feels more connected. "We're back on track," she says.

Air ball! Brian, the basketball coach, goes on the court with her and teaches her some skills. He wants to be the fifth (or sixth?) guy to kiss her. He has one thing going for him: she likes athletes. She challenges him to a half-court shot. He nails it! "Hot!" she says. She wants him to kiss her. He hugs her instead. Whoops."I'm so bad at reading signs," he says later. "I froze up." He gets a rose anyway. Later, at a cocktail party,  he finally works up the nerve to kiss her. Better late than never.

Hang time: Andi requests a challenge to deal with her fear of heights. So she and Marcus rappel off the 30-stsory hotel with a heavy breeze. He hides his fear and talks her down while she freaks out. Stud move: kissing her while rappelling. He later says at dinner that she's the first woman he can open up to. Naturally, he gets a rose. Easy call.

Secret admirer: The producers, desperate to jimmy up something vaguely dramatic, has one of the guys write a "love letter" but provide no name. Mystery! Who could it be? Does it matter?

Tasos makes his move: He is adorable and seems sweet. But Andi hasn't had much one-on-one time with him. He tries to sell himself to her. "I want to be that someone for you. I need to be true to who I am." But it's all for naught. He ultimately leaves minus a rose.

Marquel makes a better move: He works for some sort of wrestling operation so he teaches her some moves, an excuse for some touchy-touchy. One move is called the "real naked choke." But not literally. He's goofy and fun. She seems charmed enough.

All hell breaks loose: Eric the Traveler is all Eric Mr. Insecurity. He takes her aside and says he feels he has been really open with her about Syria and his religion but feels Andi hasn't returned the favor. He says he has seen glimpses of the "real" Andi but has mostly seen a (gulp!) "TV actress." What? You mean this whole show isn't real? She doesn't take it well. "I respect your openness but I'm taken aback by that."

"Do you feel you've been comfortable and natural all the time?" he says.

She admits that isn't the case. How can it be given the artificial situation the entire show is? She is still offended and for the first time this season, we see Angry Andi. "There's  a part of me that doesn't want to waste another minute of yours."

She says this interaction is "so past healthy." He says he just wants her to be totally comfortable with him. But he blows it - big time "This is not going to work," she concludes. "I can't fight for someone who doesn't believe in me."

She then tells the other guys that they can leave if they think she's being fake. "This is not easy for me," she says tearfully. "I'm exhausted. I'm so exhausted. I'm trying to hard. I don't mean to yell at you. If you don't think this is real, there's the door."

Eric seems oddly not that upset about killing the relationship and walks out. "I'm sad because I saw potential there," he says. "It did hurt me to see Andi cry."

Sadly, he apparently died soon after he left the show in a paragliding accident.

Chris Harrison informs us the news for the final segment. The producers decide to not show the rose ceremony where Tasos is cut. Instead, he talks to Andi. "It's devastating to even talk about it," she says. She says he had this charm and heart. She liked his adventurousness, which is why she chose him as the first one-on-one date. She felt there was ultimately a lack of openness. "It kind of stalled," she says. "I had relied on the excitement of that first date." She regrets that this was the last conversation she had with him.

We also learn Andi and the crew found out about Eric's death after the hometown visits.